Who’s Doing it All? Not Me!

Hello, Monday. I’ve become pretty accustomed to all the holiday-induced short weeks lately…fingers crossed this first full week is a smooth one! It doesn’t help that we stayed up cuh-razy late binging ‘Making a Murderer’! Are you watching that show on Netflix? I’m so frustrated by it that I’m not sure I can watch the rest. I’m not convinced he’s innocent, nor that he was framed, and unfortunately we’ll never know the truth.

I spent the last week or so recapping all we accomplished and experienced in 2015, and while your comments are always genuinely nice and heartfelt, I also get the recurring question of “How do you DO IT ALL?!”

The question is usually followed-up with some sort of self-deprecating statement of their own perceived failures in the life/mom/fashion department. The comments always get me thinking about my own life, how I manage it, and how it’s perceived by others…particularly you guys. After tooting my own horn so much last week, I felt like it was a good time to pull back the blogger-veil a bit…just in case you were under the false impression I’m somehow living my life better than you.

The idea that anyone might think I “do it all” makes me laugh at the ridiculousness, and a little sad, because obviously I’ve built a facade here that contributes to believing in unrealistic standards. I mean really, who is doing it all?! Women are amazing, but no one person can do it all alone. I certainly can’t!

There’s no question that blogs (including my own) put their best face forward, almost a fantasy life. No piles of dirty laundry, no bagged-out eyes from sleep deprivation, no disappointed faces when mom doesn’t come through.

Which, I suppose, is similar to fashion magazines using highly-retouched photos of impossibly thin models…they give us an unrealistic view of how our bodies and lives “should” look, and for me, can induce piles of guilt for not meeting those standards. Obviously if you think my life and home always look like the pictures, then there is a lot I’ve managed to keep from you.

There is no such thing as balance between home, work, family, blog and self…because if one area is excelling, it’s usually at the detriment of another. I think of it more as juggling, and I live in fear of all the balls dropping. #twss

If I examine that further, the fear comes from being revealed as a fraud or failure…because I struggle with feeling worthy of so many blessings. Is this too honest for a blog post? Maybe.

Now, does this mean I think we should all start posting images of our toothpaste splattered sinks and reminder emails of forgotten appointments? No, we come to blogs for inspiration and ideas. I post projects and outfits because I love creating them, sharing them, and in the hopes that someone will be inspired by them. I really, truly love every aspect of blogging….creating something, photographing it, writing a post that hopefully engages and entertains, and the interactions that come from it. I do struggle to keep perspective with it, and remind myself constantly that it’s meant to be fun.

So with more emotional dumping, I’ll let you in on a few more truths about my life. And while it is extremely blessed, it’s not extraordinarily charmed.

* I’m a complete Type-A, control-freak, master list maker, can’t be idle kind of person. Sounds fun, right? Want to hang out? #sarcasm I finally realized that my inability to let dishes sit in the sink, clothes hampers remain full, or enjoy an afternoon of doing nothing, was hurting my quality of life. Sure these things need to be done, but the world won’t stop if I don’t do them right away. And actually, the world was passing me by. I have to consciously work everyday to be more present with the people in my life, and not just the chores of it.

* I work part-time now, and mostly from home (read about that here), so that’s a lot of hours I have without kids, to work, run errands, buy project supplies, blog, etc. I bet you could get a lot done with that much time to yourself, too. However, working from home can be very isolating, so while it seems I’m connecting with people all day, it’s not the same when the majority of it is online. This has caused some strife in my marriage since Mr. SP wants to actually shutdown at the end of the day, not be verbally bombarded by a lonely wife!

* I may refer to this blog as my ‘fun, happy place’, but make no mistake, I work hard at it. Like really, really hard. Between my job and the blog (I refuse to refer to the blog as a ‘job’ because I love every aspect of it too much to think of it as ‘work’), I spend upwards of 60+ hours a week. It’s not Monday-Friday…it’s virtually everyday.

* I’m almost always tired. 

* I’m not always perfectly-styled and put-together…in fact, as I’m writing this, it’s 5pm and I’m in yoga pants, and have yet to brush my hair or even my teeth! Okay, that’s gross…standby while I run to rectify that.

* I have my fair-share of insecure moments…am I wearing the right thing, what do they expect from me, will they like me? But one of the gifts of getting older is also a ‘who gives a crap what they think’ mentality! Honestly, the older I get, the more confident I become with who I am, and what God gave me. Sure there are haters, but I know my heart and intentions, so I have to focus on the people that really matter. Isn’t that was Dr. Seuss said? “The people that matter, don’t mind…and those that mind, don’t matter.” #bam #micdrop #seusswisdom


* I have an amazing housekeeper that comes to my house twice a month. For some reason, I have a hard time admitting I need this help, but I swear I’m a better mom and wife because I don’t hold resentments about scrubbing toilets. #ittakesavillage

* Since much of the house crapola gets done during the week, my weekends are more open. The kid’s activities and schedules occupy a lot of it, but they are getting older now and have no interest in being glued to my side all day. That leaves quite a few hours for my own fun stuff…which for me, is painting, creating outfits, and taking pictures.

* The photos you see of my house on the blog are not accidental…those rooms have been picked-up, cleaned, styled and I’ve waited for the best light. If you drop by some time, you’ll find things strewn on the sofa, floor, kitchen counters…everywhere. Basically, evidence of life being lived. Although it does make me crazy…that goes back to that whole Type-A thing. πŸ˜‰

* I miss school loan payments, forget permission slips, have dead houseplants and dirty baseboards. I lose it with my kids, get boiling mad at my husband, and have thoughts of running away. We eat cereal for dinner sometimes, I duck my head when the PTA asks for volunteers, and I have a broken relationship with my dad that gives me heaps of shame and rejection. I quietly suffered through the baby blues when my son was born, had to go on medication after my daughter came along, and I get lost in malls. (What does it say about me that my most embarrassing admission is the lost in malls part???)

Have I helped to squash the myth that I live a June Cleaver life??? I am most certainly flawed, but I’m also a really happy, peppy person…yes, some days I have to choose the happiness (wine helps)…but I think the joy comes from the overwhelming gratefulness I feel for this life God has blessed me with, and the extraordinary people He placed in it. So the enthusiasm and positivity you read here, is genuine. I haven’t won the life-lottery, but there’s nothing I’d change about my life either.
This is probably waaaay more than you bargained for on a Monday, and trust me, it scares the crap out of me to press ‘Publish.’ But I think it’s important that you know what you see here isn’t always a complete refection of my life, so please don’t be fooled by the pretty pictures. I would hate for anyone to leave this blog feeling down on themselves, or resentful of me. We’re all just doing the best we can, and hopefully encouraging each other along the way. Happy Monday, lovebugs!

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187 Comments

  1. Tanya wrote:

    Cassie, thanks for always keeping it real! Love your blog!

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  2. I love you! Thanks for being you and for always making us laugh. That is such a gift to be able to laugh when you hurt inside. XOXOXO

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  3. I just love you Cassie! This post was perfectly timed and much needed by me :).

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  4. Just when I think I couldn't possibly love your blog more, you publish this and I am in love all over again!

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  5. this was refreshing and mostly relatable for me- i am the same way about so many things and yet super peppy as well…. and i want to get a housekeeper but am just not there yet. but i hope to be!

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  6. I just love your blog. I appreciate your honesty this morning, because as a mom of three, I struggle with the same Type-A qualities. πŸ™‚ Thanks for keeping it real…..

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  7. One of the reasons I love your blog so much you are so genuine! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for the inspiration you give on your blog each week!

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  8. I just love your honesty, and reading this makes me love you and your blog even more!

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  9. Cindy wrote:

    This was refreshing and makes me love your blog even more! It is such a breath of fresh air when people are "real" with each other and willing to share some of those things we might want to otherwise hide. Thank you! It made this tired, yoga pant wearing mama with dirty baseboards happy this morning πŸ™‚

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  10. Best post ever.

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  11. Well, this was a very thoughtful and beautifully written post. And it shows so much about why I love you! So many hard and real thoughts, but followed up with a sarcastic comment or well timed hashtag (a couple that made me laugh out loud). I found myself nodding my head throughout the post, and I think it's going to be a much needed read for so many women! Love you friend!

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  12. Cathy wrote:

    Cassie – I look forward to reading your blog each day – it is hands down my favorite! We are at similar stages in life (my oldest son is about to turn 14 and your post (or maybe instagram as I follow both) about your son driving gives me hives! You and I have hundreds of things in common and I'm sure would be fast friends if you lived in SC (or I lived in TX). Your honesty is refreshing and so very relatable. Please keep doing what your passion is leading you to do – it's pretty amazing!

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  13. If even possible, I adore you more πŸ™‚ #girlcrush

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  14. Heather wrote:

    Seeing the reality behind all the pretty pictures is a refreshing change. Have you heard Over the Rhine's song "All My Favorite People Are Broken"? It speaks to how we are all flawed and all trying out best: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Ea9uy6Mngk

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  15. I know you work really hard on this blog and it shows! Love how you're keeping it real!!

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  16. MelissaG wrote:

    Ok so I have to say this. I lived in WI for the 13 years prior to moving to TN a year ago. So I lived through Making of a Murderer the first time around. Make no mistake. This man is evil and as guilty as they come. This documentary is told ONLY from his perspective, as they want to get everyone believing he is innocent. It really makes me sick that this poor girls family has to now endure all theses people thinking this man was framed. They were body parts on his property!!!! Sorry…I sort of get on a rant when it comes to this!

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    • MelissaG wrote:

      And I love your realness and honesty. I watch/follow several blogs/you tubers and it always appears they have the perfect life. Good to hear you gave to straighten up before photo shoots!! I am very very Type A also, so I get it.

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  17. Christina wrote:

    It can be hard to see perfect pictures and remember that no one is perfect. Thank you for this! perfect timing! *kisses*

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  18. I love your honesty…and very much appreciate it! I think it is a testament to your lovely nature that you should even think to post these personal and beautiful explanations of an imperfect life. You certainly don't owe us, as readers, an explanation of your life!! But that you care enough about us potentially feeling inadequate to publish such a personal post shows great compassion.

    For the record, I enjoy your blog greatly and I think most readers come to blogs with an understanding that they are a place of inspiration, rather than a place for comparison.

    You're doing such a great job and I hope you continue to enjoy it for a very long time to come. Best wishes xo

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  19. Great post. Thanks for sharing! Kudos to you for all you do (and don't do) in the run of the day. As women, I think we sometimes get all caught up and forget to pat ourselves and each other on the back.

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  20. beaner wrote:

    This was a great post. It's nice to see the other side sometimes. Of course we come here to see the beautiful rooms, projects, outfits but it's nice every once in awhile to see the other side! We all live there, comfort in numbers! Thanks, Jill

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  21. Melissa wrote:

    I love it when you keep it real. It makes me feel more connected over the cyber waves.

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  22. Melissa wrote:

    I love it when you keep it real. It makes me feel more connected over the cyber waves.

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  23. Linda wrote:

    This post makes you even more awesome! Your blog is one of my favorites and I look forward to each post. Having never commented before I thought it time to say thank you. This was definitely a different post from you, but I don't think there's anyone who can't relate to some or all of what you wrote. Keep doing what you're doing Cassie! Xo ~Linda

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  24. I love how you kt it real. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. We all need to remember everyone has struggles and to lift each other up. Hugs!

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  25. Thank you for this. It was very brave!

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  26. I must say I enjoy all your posts but this is one of my favorites! We are all "real" and that sometimes gets lost in the perception of "cyber" life. We only post the perfect pics because, hey, who wants to see the cat fur on our black dress pants? We should try to keep it real more often than we do, I guess. However, as long as we realize behind those perfect pics we are all imperfect, it is all OK. Have a great day!

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  27. Love your transparency. Bless you!!

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  28. Susan wrote:

    It's so good to know you aren't perfect – LOL! Thanks for sharing. The one thing that really resonated with me from your post was the "some days I have to choose happiness". A simple concept, yet one that many people just don't do. I am going to make that my mantra. Thanks for what may be a life-changing statement! (Especially today when I am dealing with a daughter who totaled her car last night – not her fault and everyone is ok, in-laws with very demanding health and wellness issues we have to deal with constantly, a teenager with a crazy busy schedule that stresses me out, and then just the regular stuff that ebbs and flows from busy to boring. I could use a little bit of boring right now, but . . . today, I am going to choose happiness! Love your style and attitude – thanks for the daily dose of good cheer.

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  29. Pam A. wrote:

    Way to tell it Cassie! This must be an important key to your success!! Keeping it real! Love the blog even more now!

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  30. Beth wrote:

    Thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities with us. It makes me love this place even more.

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  31. Love this post!!! Way to keep it real sister πŸ™‚

    Mindy

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  32. as far as Making a Murderer . . . the fact that the investigation was done so poorly is why we don't know if he did it or not. The police should have investigated her ex boyfriend, followed all leads, etc., before focusing on him. You won't find out if he did it or not, but you will learn a lot about how the justice system should work and how it can be corrupted.

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  33. KK wrote:

    I get lost in malls too! Haha I am directionally challenged. I do this in doctor's offices too. So many halls and everything looks the same. :-/ I can relate to it all. Love you all the more.

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  34. Brooke0612 wrote:

    Thanks for such an honest post. Another reason why your blog is one of my favorites and I always look forward to a new post. Keep up the great work!

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  35. Great post! I always come here for decor and fashion inspiration, but today I got so much more. Thanks so much

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  36. You're so beautiful in and out, Cassie. I feel you on so many levels. I know you're not perfect but you sure do kick a$$!

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  37. <3 U

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  38. Sarah wrote:

    I was actually about to stop following you because you made me feel so bad about my life. (I just try to eliminate things that Satan uses to make me forget my blessings.) So I'm so, so glad that you posted this today! Thank you!

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  39. I love the way you own it so authentically and in such a real way. I relate on so many levels…especially to the broken relationship with my dad. Our pastor always says that "daddy wounds" are a special thing because they cut so deeply into the heart and soul. It's so true! But the best part (which is totally hard to remember sometimes)…it teaches us to love the Lord like a Father and look to Him for that unconditional, agape love a daddy should give! xx

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  40. MaryB wrote:

    Great post – I've always loved your blog, and get so many wonderful diy and fashion ideas (made pom poms & sewed them on a throw for my mom for Christmas – she loved it!), but seeing the behind the scenes reality and how hard you work helps us see you as both real and inspiring. Thanks for writing this – I think it is perfect for a Monday! πŸ™‚

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  41. elle wrote:

    Dear favorite blogger, Thank you for the reality check. Obviously everything you post is positive and beautiful and that's why I read- for your lovely tips. Today's post helps remind me why I love your blog – because you are a down to earth girlfriend who is just generously sharing great finds.
    Thank you. -A loyal follower forever.

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  42. I absolutely love how candid this post is. I think the timing was perfect, and I love that you are confident enough to spill it all. This is real life, at its finest! There will be haters, especially when you're in the public eye. One of my favorite lines comes from a song: "Everybody hates somebody everybody loves, whatcha gonna do" (Just Wakin' Up by Vonray). But, you are impossible to hate. I've enjoyed your blog for several years now, and the post about your Dad and Grandad was the one that hooked me…a real-life, true story post. All the pep, beauty, and excellent writing kept me around! Keep doing what you do (and letting others do what they do), and you'll keep this blog at the top! πŸ™‚ Thanks so much for sharing! YOU ROCK – and give me so much inspiration for the kind of blogger I'd like to be!

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  43. LOVE your honesty and willingness to share! Thanks for being open with us, your readers. I, too, am a type A and we do need to give ourselves a little grace. I've no doubt we would be great friends (especially with my love affair of Mexican food!), but since we don't know each other personally and I'm pretty sure you are now scared of me (:0), I will just keep enjoying your blog! Keep up the amazing work!!

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  44. Lisa S wrote:

    Love, love, love, Cassie! Thanks for sharing, and being YOU!

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  45. WOW! Perfectly honest and more intimate than anything I've ever seen on your blog. Thank you for your transparency. So refreshing. xoxo

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  46. I love this post- thank you for your honesty and transparency. It is seriously so refreshing and makes me like you even more (And I'm already a huge #fangirl) πŸ™‚ Keep doing what you're doing- it's fabulous!!

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  47. This post made me love your blog even more. Keeping doing you…perfectly and imperfectly.

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  48. Thank you for being completely honest. I have to admit that I was becoming very resentful of your life and vowed not to keep reading because I looked at my own life and felt like such a failure. It's refreshing to see that we are all in the same rat race and now that I think about it–I appreciate your upbeat, peppy posts and truly happy that things are going so well for you (who wants to read about a negative debbie downer???). So–thanks for giving us a glimpse into the real you because it's made me appreciate you that much more. I truly believe God put us on this planet to serve Him, and to love and encourage each other–and you are doing just that!!!

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  49. T. Cashion wrote:

    This post just makes me love you even more!

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  50. I've said it before, but I can see myself in you so much! Type-A all the way! Even when people help me clean up, I have to go back and do it my way. Being on bed rest is taking every ounce of patience I have!! Love this post!

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  51. LOVE YOU MORE! You are amazing; thank you for being you!!!

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  52. Jenny wrote:

    I think we all appreciate knowing that we're not all perfect. It does get easier to get things done, once the kids are a bit older, isn't it. And, your "wine helps" hahaha! Loved it! πŸ™‚

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  53. Sallie wrote:

    Great post, Cassie! Another reason why your blog is one of my favorites!

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  54. Thank you for keeping it real! As a fellow Type-A, I struggle to 'do it all' and find the balance needed to maintain my sanity. This post was just what I needed this morning!

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  55. Good for you for pointing out directly and honestly that although your blog IS a happy and beautiful place, it isn't a your "whole" life. I admire you for responding to the "how do you do it all?" question with such openness.

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  56. onnery wrote:

    I don't believe I have ever commented but I do read your posts almost daily. You are honest and brave to put it all out there even though you are not obliged! Thank you for being candid. None of us are perfect, and no matter what, we all know that!

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  57. I love you right now. That is all. πŸ™‚

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  58. onnery wrote:

    I don't believe I have ever commented but I do read your posts almost daily. You are honest and brave to put it all out there even though you are not obliged! Thank you for being candid. None of us are perfect, and no matter what, we all know that!

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  59. Lilly wrote:

    because you are not perfect its why i keep coming back. don't ever be πŸ™‚ we all have struggles and sunny moments. its part of growing up and i won't change a thing of what you are doing. your accomplishments, humor and good deeds are what matters most! love your blog, personality and the pinch of sarcasm in between! job well done!

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  60. I do not think I could love a blog post more. THANK YOU for being real. πŸ™‚ I laughed at the teeth brushing comment–I've been there, too! (Too many times!)

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  61. Unknown wrote:

    I like you even better now. πŸ™‚

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  62. Emi Cooper wrote:

    Thanks for this…needing a "real life" jolt today! I thank God for commnunity (even online community) to walk through this life with! People like you really encourage me to be intentional about building and fostering that community! Self-care ist's selfish and AMEN it takes a village!! Thanks for this perspective πŸ™‚

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  63. Someone else who gets #twss! Loved using it in junior high, love it even more now!

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  64. I teared up reading this. You've started off the year with a future most-read-and-commented-post already, I see! Nicely done. So much honesty from the perfect woman makes me like you and your writing even more. Keep at it–sounds like everything is flowing just right.

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  65. Lindsey wrote:

    Cassie, you rock! So many of those things align with my life and I laughed out loud at the WFH part about your husband coming home – same deal in my house! I'm a babbling crazy when he walks in the door because I'm craving that interaction and he's all can I sit down for one minute please! It's hard to field the "perfect life" or "you do it all" comments from readers (I get them too) but I think you hit the nail on the head. We're bloggers, we're going to show you the happy things and the clean house, not the crusty food splatters on my kitchen floor. But we all have our flaws. And, what is it about housekeepers?! I feel the same guilt admitting it, but it's the best money I spend every month. Love your outlook and attitude on life and love following you. Happy Monday!

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  66. ali9570 wrote:

    Thank you for your honesty! Some of the bloggers I follow do make it seem like you have and can do it all. I work full-time, am a mom to a 7 year old daughter, wife and a daughter (my 81 year old Mom lives with us but is pretty self-sufficient). I do struggle at times to keep it together and sometimes it sucks and it does make me cranky so it helps me tremendously to read that you too lose it at times and struggle. I also appreciate that your home isn't perfect 100% of the time, 365 days of the year because I know I have that issue in our own home. My husband liked to use our kitchen table as his office which caused me such great anxiety I convinced him to move his office to a great empty space under the stairs. Now if only I could work on my 7 year old daughter to pick up after herself when she does her arts and crafts, I'd be a bit happier!

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  67. Kim McCue wrote:

    Lovely post. Very real

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  68. Thank you so much for being so real and honest. As a wife, mother, blogger and full time employee I can relate to the constant struggle to find balance. I appreciate you being so open!

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  69. CC wrote:

    Thank you for sharing with us!

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  70. I already adore you, but this makes me adore you that much more! Thank you so much for being real and honest!

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  71. Thanks for keeping it real. It is a balance that I struggle with everyday. I get lost in malls too. It is embarrassing when your four-year old is telling you which way to go to get back to the entrance where we parked the car πŸ˜‰

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  72. I have to admit that i was somewhat jealous of your life…not anymore! JK πŸ™‚

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  73. Keep on keepin' it real honey! That's what we love about you. OK, we do wonder if you EVER look like crap, but we'll take your word for it. It's these kind of posts that make Hi Sugarplum the blog email I always open immediately cause I like to hear about what's up with you. Thanks so much for sharing. It was absolutely NOT TMI.

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  74. Best post I've read from anyone in a long time.

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  75. THANK YOU for being open and sharing that with us all. I appreciate it SO MUCH! Hugs too for your bravery and openness. πŸ™‚

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  76. Beth wrote:

    First time commenting to say thanks for this post today! I agree–we don't need to see your piles and dust bunnies and toothpaste-encrusted sinks, but sharing the mea culpa moments really adds a lot to this blog. I suddenly feel like I know you a lot better. πŸ™‚

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  77. You are simply perfection because you can't do it all! πŸ™‚ I'm in the same boat as you working from home and being kind of isolated to only talking via phone or web. Keith is in sales and talks ALL day, so sometimes it's tricky to find a good balance of communication and quiet.

    You should never be afraid to push "Publish." We love you for a reason…and posts like this are just one of them! Keep it up, Chickie!

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  78. Phew! I thought it was just me :). Thanks for keeping it real!

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  79. Momma wrote:

    I had to laugh at the duck when the PTA asks for volunteers comment! I stay far, far away from PTA recruiters! Like I have time to organize family fun days, fundraisers, and the like! I don't even have time to ATTEND the fun days, pizza sales, etc. let alone help organize the whole thing! Lol! Also, we also eat cereal, a salad, or a sandwich at least one night a week for dinner…not counting the weekends…that's all we eat then! Love 'ya! May God bless you and your family!

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  80. When I found your blog I knew instantly you were authentic. After reading this I totally am sure we would be fast friends in real life! I feel like I could have written some of these things about myself for sure…especially the paragraph about being type A. Thanks for sharing….and praise Jesus this is my last year (14 of the last 19) of elementary school…bye bye PTO!! They will be seeing my checkbook from here on out. Keep doing what you are doing Cassie…you are beautiful inside and out!

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  81. You go girl!! πŸ™‚ Love your blog!

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  82. Traci wrote:

    Good post!

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  83. steph wrote:

    Great blog post! Loved how honest, genuine and real you were in writing it. In reality, we know that most bloggers don't live these perfect lives with spotlessly clean homes, super organized shelves and fashionably dressed children everyday. I have only seen one other blogger post her very messy kitchen on an average day before dinner time clean-up.

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  84. kirbys wrote:

    LOVE your blogs ! You inspire me…and after reading this, helps me to put things in perspective. I am also TYPE A trying to do it all…perfectly. Thanks for keeping it "real" and sharing a part of yourself. You are awesome…

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  85. Thank you so much for this post!! With the online world the way it is these days, it's really easy to get caught up in what we "see" as truth online. What a great reminder that there is more than meets the eye. Love how you are keeping it real! Thank you! ❀️

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  86. lindsey wrote:

    Such a great post. I feel like this resonates even more this time of year when everyone is aiming to do better/more/everything. We are all beautifully flawed!

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  87. THANK YOU so much for this post!!! For keeping it real! I wish more bloggers would do this. I have enjoyed reading your blog for years and struggle with my Type A personality enormously. I need to take your advice and relax more. My OCD prevents me from enjoying time with my kids sometimes and I feel that guilt. No one is perfect. You are the best πŸ™‚

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  88. Patty wrote:

    I love your honesty, Cassie…keeping it SOO freaking real!! xoxo

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  89. Cassie,
    Great post. As a blogger and a mom this really hit home with me. I read every word and it was so honest and I needed to hear it. I'm about to go to my first blog conference and am nervous about being new. Thanks for the vote of confidence.
    Jenn

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  90. LOVE this post Cassie!! I've been working on a similar one for my own blog because it does feel awkward when readers think bloggers lead the perfect lives. I feel so guilty because I know the reality (and all those corners of crap in my house that I conveniently photograph around). Keep doing what you're doing girl – you're amazing!

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  91. I love your honesty. It's easy to look at you,family and life and think that it's perfect, but it's obviously not. I'm a type A personality and want nothing out of place in my house. My boys are all grown up, with one in his last year of college and my eldest working and proposing to his girlfriend in a couple of weeks. Actually, I live in Plano, so we're close. Anyway, I began following you like a year ago and have done some of your DIY projects and love it. Take care and I look forward to much more!!

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  92. Katie wrote:

    Thank you thank you thank you for this post! I must admit I assumed you were almost as perfect as your posts appear, even though I rationally knew that wasn't true (or possible, or desirable!), so I love hearing the real perspective. Thanks for keeping it real and honest. I love your blog, and just fell in love with it all over again reading this post! (PS – I live in Dallas and love seeing pics of you in places I know! I always secretly look for you when I'm at the container store πŸ˜‰

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  93. Thank you for such honesty. It's definitely somewhat comforting to know that your not the only one who can keep stirring all the pots before something becomes burnt to the bottom.

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  94. Tiffany F wrote:

    Your blog is a bright spot in my life! I know that it is not possible for every room in a home to be tidy every day. However, I do know that for some (including me) it does come easier than to others. I hope you don't feel like you have to apologize for the talents you may have been born with and have chosen to cultivate. What amazes me about you is your reference to a broken relationship with your dad involving shame and resentment. I too have that and it has held me back in more ways than I can quantify. The fact you put yourself "out there" in light of it is remarkable, admirable and in some small way helped me with a little hope and healing today.

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  95. Leigh wrote:

    Thank you for being so honest. I know everyone loves pretty pictures, but I think so many of them from blogs, social media, etc. really takes a toll on our self-esteem. At least it does from my perspective. I know no one can do it all and we only see like 10% of your life. I love that you put yourself out there. You've always been a blogger I feel I can relate to and see a little of myself in your style, that's why I read. Thanks again Cassie and keep being you!

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  96. What a great post Cassie!!!

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  97. Kandace wrote:

    Excellent. Thank you.

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  98. MickiH wrote:

    Thank you for being so real with us and reminding me I'm not alone in the journey, Cassie! Love you even more!

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  99. This is why I love your blog so much! Thank you for sharing these real moments and thoughts. Love to read your blog and take a peak into your closet, your home and your heart!

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  100. Unknown wrote:

    best blog ever πŸ™‚
    its nice to know I am not alone. in yoga pants right now lol

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  101. Thanks so much, Patrice! While your comment was so very kind and thoughtful, I'm deleting it only because it accidentally live-linked to that hate site…and I just don't want to contribute or send traffic their way. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I don't want to encourage the hurtful ones. xoxo

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  102. What you said about talking to your husband after work…You want to talk, he wants to chill for a bit. My husband and I just moved to a new state, and we're going through the exact same thing! I'm so lonely! We're working on it, but it is a little comforting to know we're not the only ones. Sending lots of good thoughts that y'all get in your groove soon πŸ™‚

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  103. Cindi wrote:

    I never comment on blogs (but I do read a lot of them every day). I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate your genuineness. I was going to post the same comment on the post you did about all the fun things you were able to be a part of in 2015, but never did. But with this post, I couldn't resist! I love reading your blog because you always come across as genuine. You get do a lot of great things, but it never seems like you are bragging, but more of a friend who wants to share the good things that are happening in your life…and I enjoy reading about them and celebrating with you. Thank you for being you…for being real in the good and harder parts of life!!!

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  104. sangii77 wrote:

    Love this post! Long time reader , first time commenter. The 'running away' comment was the one that made me comment. So true so real so common. Keep doing what you do, we all love it.

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  105. I comment rarely but read often….I've read since the beginning actually. One of the reasons I love your blog so much because you do inspire me. It is like a breath of fresh air…much like this post. Thank you for sharing! Keep on being you. πŸ™‚

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  106. Mary wrote:

    Glad to hear that you are as real as the rest of us. I work from home as well and yes it is very isolating. Glad that I found your blog, I really enjoy it and you! Keep the faith Sister!!

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  107. Although I didn't read all the comments, I had to scroll down quite a way to post mine. I'm sure that what 99% of them say is, "Thank you for your honesty and transparency." Its easy for us to believe that you lead a charmed life. I may have even said that about your 2015 year, but the truth is life is hard. So, thank you for your honesty and transparency. That is really what blesses people and what makes your blog genuine and authentic. I haven't missed a post in over a year and don't plan to start.

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  108. Great post. I love your Blog, your style and your great attitude. I look forward to reading all of your future post.

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  109. Wow! Brave, real and raw. Thanks for sharing this, it's never easy sharing personal stuff like this, the deep stuff. Love your blog and you should be so proud of yourself!

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  110. Sarah wrote:

    This is all so great! Thank you for sharing! I am very Type A too and am doing my best to let go of some of that. You are right…the world doesn't stop spinning if there are dishes in the sink or the laundry doesn't get folded…its a great reality check!

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  111. Sladesta wrote:

    You are my favorite blogger! I always feel like you are presenting your true self on your blog, not some picture perfect fantasy. You keep doing you – that is ALWAYS enough!!!

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  112. Samantha wrote:

    Couldn't love this more!