Cheers to Friday, and a weekend of Christmas fun ahead! We’re actually putting our styled-up Dining Room with festive plaid table to good use, and hosting a dinner party tomorrow night. It’s a fairly casual affair (considering tacos are involved!), but we have two upcoming parties that will give us a chance to get dressed up.
We don’t get fancy very often, but man oh man, I love it when we do! Mr. SP in a suit positively makes me swoon, if you can’t tell from these frisky pictures.
He’s a bit of a
rebel free-spirit, so when it comes time to dress up, is usually when he decides to let his beard and hair get unruly. In the early years of our marriage, those type of things would really bug me…and I spent a lot of effort trying to ‘mold’ him into more of what I wanted him to be, and worrying about how he was perceived by others.
Which basically only led to him digging in his heels and doing the complete opposite of what I wanted. #stinker But he was only trying to find his own footing in the marriage, and prove he was still his own man, and marriage hadn’t changed that. But of course marriage does change things, and while it’s unfair to expect, or even ask, a person to change, married people do have to change some aspects of their behavior and actions. If you want a happy marriage, anyway.
I eventually realized it was my own insecurities that wanted him to fit into my definition of ‘perfect man,’ and slowly began to lighten my grip. I became his cheerleader and supporter, and then magically, my complete acceptance gave him the space and desire to make changes for me, because he wanted to. Because he wanted to make me happy.
I also grew up enough to discover he’s his own man, and sometimes he’s going to dress, behave, and say things I won’t agree with…that may even embarrass me…but that’s him, not me. Just as I’m sure he feels the same about me sometimes!
I’m not saying we have the perfect marriage, nor have we found the holy grail of happy marriage for life, but we have learned that giving each other the freedom to be who we are, and loving each other unconditionally for it (or even in spite of it sometimes!), helps us soar together.
The lace overlay is delicate, but not flimsy, and I love the movement of the skirt when you walk. It also allows for a strapless bra, so you don’t have to MacGyver your boobs in place.
Fit Tip: It runs true to size for me in Woman’s sizing, but online reviews suggests it runs big for some.
Little black dresses are a dime a dozen, it’s the details that make one special, and worth adding to your closet.
I can never seem to keep my eyes, or hands, off Mr. SP when we’re out. The man makes me laugh and feel so loved! I think coming from divorced parents, I assumed that was in the cards for me, too, so I’m always surprised by how strongly I feel about him after 21 years together. #pmsmuch
Most of my coats would just botch-up an outfit this pretty, so I opt for a wrap instead. After all, I just have to make it from the car to the party!
So while 20 years ago I would have been pissy that he didn’t shave, today I’m grateful he took time out of his busy work day, while suffering from a horrible head-cold, to shoot these pictures with me. Simply because he knew it was important to me, and those actions show his love a lot louder than a smooth face. Happy weekend, lovebugs, I hope it’s a festive one!
*Thank you, Mary Summers, for the photos & fun afternoon!
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